After quite an eventful weekend and week in Vegas last week (house risked by a grass fire hours before I leave, delayed flights, cancelled flights back from the ice storm, driving back, cramped back seat, etc.) we had to discuss the Vegas wedding scenario.
In short, we’ve decided to nix the Vegas idea and keep the wedding and reception in Oklahoma City. The date should still be the same, August 8th 2009, and a reception to follow. I don’t have a location yet, but I am hoping to book somewhere that we can have the ceremony and reception in the same place. I know a lot of you were looking forward to Vegas, as many of you had never been, and were looking forward to a vacation type get-away as well. I know we can change our minds and we are allowed to, but I felt as if we should at least explain our reasoning.
Vegas was meant to be low-key, fun, and cheap. As it stands, with separating the at-home reception, having a small reception in Vegas, travel costs, venue costs, and the like, for what we wanted out of Vegas, it was going to cost just as much or more than a wedding at home. I just wasn’t comfortable with having my first wedding at the $99 chapel. All of the elements that could be avoided by doing a package in Vegas weren’t that important, but seemed a bit overpriced for what you were getting. Also, we met with the wedding coordinator last weekend, she was an amazingly sweet girl, we loved the place, but for what we wanted, and how we wanted to handle things, there were going to be numerous “$150 vendor fees” that were adding up quickly and didn’t sit too well with me. The idea of, if I were to buy silk flowers, and have my mom help me make bouquets, bouts, pomanders, etc. (she’s quite crafty with a glue gun!) would be considered an “outside vendor fee” and therefore charged $150? I understand you could say we made them, and have a florist make them, but still, it was nickel and diming me to death, $150 at a time.
The vast majority of our friends and family are in the Oklahoma/Oklahoma City area, and this will avoid the issue of air travel for 100% of our guests who wanted to see the ceremony. Vegas was also going to nix our ability to have a real honeymoon, and since this is a first marriage for both of us, we really wanted a honeymoon, and Vegas was not the spot for it. Vegas was going to be a casual wedding, and I plan on the OKC event being just as you would expect a Todd and JoRaye event, casual, relaxed, tons of fun. Neither one of us wanted a formal wedding, or a Catholic wedding, so no worries in the type of event we’re hosting here. In the end, there’s quite a bit more planning to do, but it’s easier to be able to drive down the road and check out a place or service, rather than blindly book off the internet. I’ve told a few people in person, and the emotions have been mixed. People who didn’t have the money, are glad to not have to save or use credit cards, and people who wanted to come, are upset, but understand, and among the group, there’s a mix of those feelings. All in all, we want this to be fun for all involved, and we hope to see you in August.
JoRaye & Todd