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Big Update to the ToJo Wedding

After quite an eventful weekend and week in Vegas last week (house risked by a grass fire hours before I leave, delayed flights, cancelled flights back from the ice storm, driving back, cramped back seat, etc.) we had to discuss the Vegas wedding scenario.
In short, we’ve decided to nix the Vegas idea and keep the wedding and reception in Oklahoma City. The date should still be the same, August 8th 2009, and a reception to follow. I don’t have a location yet, but I am hoping to book somewhere that we can have the ceremony and reception in the same place. I know a lot of you were looking forward to Vegas, as many of you had never been, and were looking forward to a vacation type get-away as well. I know we can change our minds and we are allowed to, but I felt as if we should at least explain our reasoning.

Vegas was meant to be low-key, fun, and cheap. As it stands, with separating the at-home reception, having a small reception in Vegas, travel costs, venue costs, and the like, for what we wanted out of Vegas, it was going to cost just as much or more than a wedding at home. I just wasn’t comfortable with having my first wedding at the $99 chapel. All of the elements that could be avoided by doing a package in Vegas weren’t that important, but seemed a bit overpriced for what you were getting. Also, we met with the wedding coordinator last weekend, she was an amazingly sweet girl, we loved the place, but for what we wanted, and how we wanted to handle things, there were going to be numerous “$150 vendor fees” that were adding up quickly and didn’t sit too well with me. The idea of, if I were to buy silk flowers, and have my mom help me make bouquets, bouts, pomanders, etc. (she’s quite crafty with a glue gun!) would be considered an “outside vendor fee” and therefore charged $150? I understand you could say we made them, and have a florist make them, but still, it was nickel and diming me to death, $150 at a time.

The vast majority of our friends and family are in the Oklahoma/Oklahoma City area, and this will avoid the issue of air travel for 100% of our guests who wanted to see the ceremony. Vegas was also going to nix our ability to have a real honeymoon, and since this is a first marriage for both of us, we really wanted a honeymoon, and Vegas was not the spot for it. Vegas was going to be a casual wedding, and I plan on the OKC event being just as you would expect a Todd and JoRaye event, casual, relaxed, tons of fun. Neither one of us wanted a formal wedding, or a Catholic wedding, so no worries in the type of event we’re hosting here. In the end, there’s quite a bit more planning to do, but it’s easier to be able to drive down the road and check out a place or service, rather than blindly book off the internet. I’ve told a few people in person, and the emotions have been mixed. People who didn’t have the money, are glad to not have to save or use credit cards, and people who wanted to come, are upset, but understand, and among the group, there’s a mix of those feelings. All in all, we want this to be fun for all involved, and we hope to see you in August.

JoRaye & Todd

ToJo’s Wedding – Prices Updates AGAIN!

7 months, 1 week, and 6 days to go! (I only know that because my little time ticker told me so.) So we made it thru Christmas, and now all that’s left to tackle in 2008 is Todd’s birthday/New Year’s Eve Party, which will be a blowout. I suggest contacting me if you are still looking for a NYE destination, and will be in the OKC area.

I will be flying to Vegas at the end of January to finalize, look around, approve things, in person. As of this writing, the Flamingo is still our pick (I want to stay in a GO Room…) but, since I made a major change to my color scheme this morning (no more hot pink and black ladies, sorry), anything’s possible at this point.

I’ve heard alot of buzz about driving out to Vegas! I have no problems with this! I think it would be amazingly fun, but I don’t know how well my stress level would be, after 16 hours in a car, freaking out, 3 days before my wedding. (Say the Bridezilla word, and I’ll show you why I come from an Italian family, I WILL break your kneecaps….) So for me, I will be flying. We’re not making any reservations until after the first of the year. I think it would be really fun to get as many of us on the same flight, possibly get trashed on the way there…..hehe….etc.

So, for you driving divas and dudes: Prices at the Flamingo, hotel only – Thursday. August 6th thru Monday, August 10th (based on double occupancy, prices from
Deluxe Room -$290.00
GO Room – $450.00
GO Room Strip View – $530.00
Hotel Only – (as of right now, they are offering a 4th night free at the Flamingo, so the rates below include that.)
Deluxe Room – $222.00
GO Room – $336.00
GO Room Strip View – $396.00
For my flighty fellas and f-word that relates to girls???

Hotel and Flight –
Deluxe Room – $431.00/person (total – $862.00)
GO Room – $496.00/person (total – $992.00)
GO Room Strip View – $528.00 (total $1057.00)

These prices have went down considerably since the last time I checked, so this is good news. Todd and I have used Expedia for all of our trips (and he uses it for 95% of his business travelling) so I trust their prices, customer service, etc. If you choose another agency or website, no skin off my back. If you are deciding to attend the wedding, I am totally sure you will get a 100% OCD, attention to detail, anal-retentive, subject to change, JoRaye-made itinerary and list of things….so no worries! I keep getting the question – when should I book? I can’t answer that for you. (Sorry….) I will definately let everyone know what price and details I decide to book on. What I choose to pay may be totally different from what you want to pay, and I of course, cannot guarantee if prices will go up, down, or stay the same from when we decide to book. (Most of you know this, but, I’ve had to explain to others….love you all….even the traveling-challenged folks.) I think this is all I have now. This will be on my MySpace blog, blog, blog, and emailed to my special folks, and please, pass it along to anyone you may think needs this info (no wedding stalkers!)
Love, JoRaye

ToJo’s Vegas Wedding – Prices Update Week 2

As promised, my weekly findings on prices to Vegas for my budgeting beauties.
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Flight and Hotel from – July 16th – 20th, 2009 (SAMPLE DATES ONLY)
Deluxe Room – $652.49/person
Go Deluxe Room – $740.15/person
Go Deluxe Room w/ Strip View – $782.93/person

Room Only from – July 16th – 20th, 2009 (SAMPLE DATES ONLY)
Deluxe Room – $390.00 (based on double occupancy)
Go Deluxe Room – $550.00 (double occupancy)
Go Deluxe Room w/ Strip View – $630.00 (double occupancy)

Flight Only from – July 16th – 20th, 2009 (SAMPLE DATES ONLY)
Cheapest flight was $400. (That was this morning, as of now, there’s cheaper – $333 and $383 fares)

OK, a few of you asked: “Why would we book separately? It seems much cheaper to do it all together.” The only reason we would book flights and hotel separately would be if the Flamingo gave us a group rate for a block of rooms that would beat the Expedia Flight + Hotel prices. I haven’t even booked our ceremony, so I’m not sure of any of those details yet. Looks like we have about 3 weeks to go before we can start getting an actual gauge of what our actual August date prices are! As for last weeks prices, just to give you an idea as of how they fluctuate, they all went down $36/person over the course of a week.

Flight and Hotel from – July 9th – 13th (SAMPLE DATES ONLY)
Deluxe Room – $624.91/person (was $660.91)
Go Deluxe Room – $711.52/person (was $747.52 )
Go Deluxe Room w/ Strip View – $754.30/person (was $790.30)

OK, I’ve bored you enough. Go start counting pennies and rolling quarters for ToJo’s Vegas Wedding!

I’m engaged!

Most people already know, but just in case….I’m engaged! Officially, as of July 16th. My ring – one word – AMAZING. (for some reason, this file is there, but it won’t show up…….) I may turn into a planning blog, not sure yet. So far, as of today, I have booked a photographer! It’s my first real step towards this whole real life wedding thing. I went with Bently&Wilson of Las Vegas (, I have seen their work from some of the Las Vegas Knotties, and I am in love. His price, ownership, and ideas are exactly what I’m looking for. That’s my update for the day….. JoRaye

Crabapalooza 08 Recap

First, thank you to everyone who RSVP’ed and actually showed up. 🙂 Seriously, thanks from Todd and myself, for attending Crabapalooza. It was a kick-ass party, it took alot of time, work, planning, money, crabs, sweat, tears, and a bit more vomit than we accounted for.
But all in all, it was great, Todd got his crabs he loves so much, and Jessica and Butch had a great time celebrating their birthdays with all of their friends. I’d start saving wear and tear on your liver and stomach for Crabapalooza 09.

PICTURES: Will be up tonight on They may appear on MySpace or Facebook, but really just depends on how motivated I am. Quit your belly aching. And send me what pictures you have.

My recap points:
1. Crabapalooza 1.5 is this Thursday, July 3rd. I’m off work Friday, I’ve got alot of liquor left, a 3 day weekend, and I really didn’t drink as much as I would have hoped Saturday. Please let me know if you’re in for this mini-crabby-fest!

2. Anyone using the Bierstick from this point forward will be required to sign a waiver, and pass a breathalyzer.
2a. Anyone within 15 feet of a Bierstick user will be provided with a rain pancho and goggles, at your request.
2b. Recommendation of 1 hour between consecutive Bierstickings.

3. I have a lost and found bin. Please message or email your requests. If you left something cool or alcoholic, there is no guarantee you will get it back.

4. I will go to bartending school before Crabapalooza 09.
4a. I make no guarantees that the Alaskan Oil Spill shot will not be seen again.
4b. I will make 300 Jello Sunset shots instead of the 125 I made. I apologize
for my horrible planning, and will never let my friends run out of Jello shots ever again.

5. We will rewire our entire house, so that a swimming pool, margarita machine, ice machine, 34,221 decorative lights, a blow dryer, a Chi, and my 37 laptops, can be ran consecutively. We have spoken to the City of OKC, and they are looking into providing us with direct power from the dam.

6. I am still trying to get crab juice, butter, or hamburger grease out of Marley’s hair. Whatever you did to my dog, I hate you. Also, whatever you fed our dog, our carpet hates you. Puppy dog + blue crab + god knows what alcohol = yeah… Little Green Machine almost died.

7. I apologize for anyone who might have been at the butt end of my violent speech/attacks. But, I’m sure everyone knows the policy for “havin’ relations” in other people’s beds now. I’m thinking that’s it, I’m so happy it turned out well besides those tiny things, and this list will be updated on my blog at

Thanks again, The Host & Hostess with the Mostest (Crabs!) Todd & JoRaye

Happy April Fucking Fools Day – 1 YEAR BITCHES!

HA!HA!It was pretty fuckin’ funny last year. Sitting there, crying, wondering what I had done to make everyone in the world hate me, because I felt something for a guy.Had I broke the golden rule? Had I fucked over a truly close friend? Nah. I admit, I felt pretty horrible and uncertain on April Fools Day, 2007. What a cruel joke the world had played on me.Now I know it was all worth it. There have been tears, and fights, and moments of uncertainty, but those were nothing compared to the good times, good laughs, awkward and amazing moments, the learning, the wow-factor, the awesomeness of gaining a new best friend and boyfriend in the process. He knows how I feel, I tell him everyday. We are doing awesome and I am totally happy. So yey. fawk the haters (lol) and love yo momma, bring no drama. Oh yeah, btw, our anniversary din-din at the Melting Pot – Wowzers. Yum Yum. That’s all I got.

The Life and Times of JoRaye K.

Alright, alright. I admit. I am a horrible person for leaving you guys blogless and clueless for almost a month. Please accept my apologies, as I have morphed into super-busy girl. And most of you want to know who the boy is. Don’t worry, we’ll get to that soon enough. After that April Fools blog, life took a strange and interesting turn for the better. Most of you know the story about someone who used to be an acquaintance, possibly a friend have you, but now a bacteria, that wanted to kick my ass for taking her “man”….hard to call someone your man, claim marriage proposals and name your future children when you’re a 2am’er, and have at least 2 other guys that you’re actively dating, one of which was a guy I used to date, and another potential one was her “man’s” friend…… Ok, enough trash talk. And yes, you are welcome to judge, say I’m getting seconds, say I’m a worthless bitch, I broke the golden rule, whatever. I did it. And me and the boy (his name’s Todd, but I like referring to him as “the boy”) are pretty damned happy I must say. I hate to put a keyboard to all of this, hence jinxing myself….but I’m pretty solid right now. As far as I know, and it seems to be pretty public knowledge, I am officially the girlfriend. I am getting used to saying the word “boyfriend” without throwing the words “mother f*cking worthless stupid f*cking lousy ass piece of garbage who can’t keep a job and cheats on me constantly” behind it. And I like it! Yes- he’s older. No, I don’t care. He’s not a stick boy – and I hate stick boys. He has a Harley. I’m terrified of motorcycles. Yes. This might be a problem. He has a job. (Wow. I didn’t know guys like this existed.) He loves sushi. Good one. I’ve already semi-girlified the bathroom (shhh, I don’t think I was supposed to spill that one.) I have yet to introduce to him to the parents. After that 4 year mistake with fuckhead, they are critical of anything that comes within 2 miles of me. I have already met his parents and sister, and they are awesome people. And about 3,000 of his friends. He likes my friends. My friends like him (At least I think they do….) That’s an awesome perk. I am leaving for Vegas May 10th, with the boy. By odd circumstances, we planned a trip to Vegas, with friends, and now, we’re the only ones going. It kinda came down to the fact that we needed to book it quick, no one was making any decisions, and we just did it. Don’t worry, I plan to come back with nothing on my left hand. Not ready for that one yet. So yes, I’ve been doing the girlfriend thing. Hence why the lack of blogs. Hence why the presence of JoRaye has been minimal. There, you have it. I will be in Ardmore this weekend to see my parents and friends, (Todd went to Talladega….) OKC the next one (and possibly down in Ardmore for a day to do some sort of early Mother’s Day thing with mom) and then off to Vegas for a weekend. Then possibly back down to Ardmore the next weekend to beg my mother into not hating me because I went to Vegas on Mother’s Day weekend. And yes, I am still losing weight. I started Phentermine February 8th, and so far I’ve lost a solid 20 pounds and I love it. I’m gonna do one more month, then take a month or so off, then get back on probably. Work – is work. I don’t know if anyone takes me seriously or not, but I’ve taken on 3 different projects within 2 weeks, in addition to my normal job duties, so I’m advertising my profitability. Also, I seem to have a problem falling down. I don’t think I’ve had a scabbed knee since I was like in 5th grade….and I scabbed my left knee up 3 times in one week last week. Maybe it was the excessive amount of beer. Maybe it was the purple croc skin heels I still haven’t broken in, or maybe it was the parking lot. Maybe it was Nicole’s dancing abilities. Maybe it was all 4. Who knows, but I still can’t wear a skirt until the scabbies go away. Did I mention that brake hardware fix I got from the Mazda dealership fixed Zoe’s squealing noise? Awesome. It’s 8pm on a Thursday. I didn’t go to bed until like 4am last night. I was up for work at 6:15am. I think I’m gonna pass out and not wake up until the morning. Much love bitches –